To manifest the things you want in your life, visualise with feeling
Oh dear, I have just manifested writing this article which should have been out at the beginning of May, on the very last day of the month. So, how can I tell you about something I can’t even do properly for myself? I obviously don’t know it all, nor am I very good at it, but I am trying and learning. At least I can tell you about what I learned on this journey, about what worked for me and hope it helps you understand some of the principles of manifestation.
According to the Law of Attraction, you attract things that vibrate on the same frequency as the thoughts you send out. To clarify: your thoughts carry an emotional charge. If the emotions behind a thought are negative, then you will attract experiences that are on the same wavelength.
Say, you want a new car, but when you think about it your thoughts run with a negative emotional charge like… I have not got the money… I probably am asking too much… I will be stuck with this old thing forever… etc. With these thoughts it will be unlike you will manifest your dream car. This principle works with absolutely anything you want.
Here is a very helpful tip I picked up recently from Abraham Hicks (look him up on Google or youtube – very interesting!): instead of asking yourself: How can I get it?, ask yourself: Why do I want it? This moves you into a more positive mental state, which is necessary to manifest what you want.
To manifest more happiness you have to be happy first. I know that sounds impossible, but let me simplify this a bit. To ask from the universe, we have to get into a positively receptive state of mind first. This can be achieved through: enough sleep, 15 minutes of daily meditation, gratitude practice, a walk in nature or whatever else works for you. Practice regularly getting into this state, and when you ask for something, FEEL what it would feel like if you already had what you are asking for. Have FAITH that it is already on its way.
Here is another principle: Energy flows where attention goes… or …what you think about expands.
With other words: every thought – positive or negative – manifests in some way.
With all this information we should be able to manifest what we actually want. It may take a bit of practice, and I hope I have not ‘blown your mind’.
By the way, don’t waste your energy on things you cannot do anything about, and don’t think about what you don’t have, but what it would feel like if you had it already. Focus on what you want.
So, let’s go!
Practice… Feel it… Manifest!
The universe is in constant motion – holding on means getting stuck
First I want to apologise for not having kept up to date with my calendar articles. April was healthwise not a good month for me (like for many others I could imagine), but I am now getting back to ‘normal (whatever that is), even though my energy is still a bit flagging.
So, no more excuses – here it goes…
Isn’t it funny that last year, when I made the calendar, I should have chosen the topic of ‘Movement’ for a month when everybody’s movement would be so much restricted by this worldwide virus? Moving when being physically so ‘tied down’ becomes very difficult. How do you exercise when you can’t leave the house or are ill or depressed, and when you are dealing with massive changes to your daily routine? Fear, anxiety and frustration can stop you in your tracks, make you feel hopeless and give up, and feeling isolated and alone does not help a bit.
BUT, the world has not stopped spinning, the universe is still in constant motion – which we can see from reports around the world of nature recovering, breathing a sigh of relief. Perhaps in some ways we create too much movement (I am not talking about exercise now), upset the balance and had to be slowed down to give us time to stop and think?
Movement is only beneficial and recognizable with periods of rest and peace in-between. Even though we may not be physically active, life is still moving, thoughts are still in motion, nature is still going through the seasons. So you see, we are never really totally without movement as it has so many different faces in this world. As we seem to be so focused on physical movement, the current situation can make us feel very stuck indeed (and afraid). But looking at movement in a wider sense – moving on, moving forward, moving away from…, moving with… - there are still so many ways of movement open to us that we really do not have to feel boxed in. On the contrary, restrictions can get your creative juices flowing to find new ways of moving and living – quite exciting really.
So, keep moving, rise to the challenge and enjoy the dance.
When big things seem out of reach, pay attention to the little things - they grow.
Writing about this, for me, comes at a time when life isn’t going too well. I am feeling that I am running around in circles, wasting energy and time on some ‘big’ issues in my life, things I want to achieve, but obstacles abound. Time to focus on the little things, on what I have already achieved or on the baby steps I can take now to move towards one of my bigger goals.
When we have our eyes and mind set on big goals, we can easily lose sight of what's ’round us – and we are more likely to neglect ourselves. We start worrying about the future and forget that life only happens in the present. We can have such tunnel vision that we become oblivious to the little things happening around us. We are likely not to recognise the subtle signs life gives us. By the time we take note, little things may have grown into big nightmares.
So we really must pay attention to that little voice, our thoughts and actions now, to make the changes needed to avoid bigger problems in the future.
Though at first it felt to me like a self imposed pressure having to write this article, I am now grateful for the opportunity of getting things clear in my mind and grounding myself in the present, and sowing the seeds I want to grow big in the future.
Also, gratitude and mindfulness help us identify the ‘little things’ that make us feel good and which we actually want to grow big. Take a quiet moment and reflect on what is going right in your life, or simply notice on your way to work that profusely flowering tree, laden with Spring blossoms and making your heart sing.
Listening creates space for compassion, listen deeply
When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I hear (with my eyes still shut, they open later) does really have an impact on the rest of my day. If it’s my alarm radio, a song or melody I like, it can lift my mood, make me feel good; the news usually puts a negative slant on my feelings, makes me worry and feel helpless and sorry for others. Neighbours having an argument or children crying have a similarly dampening effect. Sometimes I can lie there, listening to the thoughts in my head, usually focused on my to-do list for the day… and I don’t even want to get up anymore.
This is a kind of superficial listening we do throughout the day. It goes through the filters in our brain and makes us feel positive or negative by triggering experiences, patterns and reactions.
Another form of listening that does not usually come automatically but can be learned, is listening deeply (active listening). Many people have such a need to be heard, to be listened to, and when you listen to another person deeply, you build a connection, understanding and compassion. It benefits not only the person you are listening to, but also yourself. This kind of listening sends messages of caring and can alleviate loneliness, worry and even desperation.
Deep listening can also be applied to our thoughts, especially that quiet little voice called ‘intuition’. How often does our subconscious speak to us and we ignore this little voice or it gets buried under negative or panicky thoughts?
Some time ago I went into town to buy some silver wire or chain which I needed for a project. On the underground I put the small bag next to me, between an end partition and my leg. I thought it would be safe and that I must not forget it there. Guess what … I remembered it when I was at the top of the escalator on my way home, and by the time I went back, it was gone. It was an expensive lesson to learn that this little voice of intuition muyst not be ignored. Once I had recovered from the shock and stopped beating myself up, I vowed that in future I would pay more attention to quiet, unobtrusive thoughts that popped up in my head.
So tomorrow I will listen more deeply to the people around me and try not to drown out what they are saying with the thoughts in my head, but now I will listen to my body which is telling me it is time to go to bed. x
When I think back to the ups and downs of the Christmas season, I realise that most of the time I was not really present in the moment. My mind was wandering, jumping to conclusions, worrying about consequences, wrapped up in beliefs. I am sure we have all done this: speaking to a friend, asking them how they are and while they were telling us, already thinking of the next thing to say, not really listening to their answer.
The mind can be so full OF agendas, thinking ahead to the future or mulling over the past, that there is very little inclination to be in the present moment.
Being present, to many of us, does not come naturally but, like all negative habits we seem to acquire so easily, this positive habit can be learned.
Why would you want to learn it?
Perhaps you are tired of worrying (being in the future); perhaps you are caught in the downward spiral of negative events that happened in your life (being in the past) and want to get out of this?
When we take attention away from ‘thinking’ it brings us more into the present.
How can we stop thinking when we know that thoughts are happening automatically all the time; when we get triggered and don’t even notice it; when we react to somebody hurling abuse at us; or when we break into tears when we see animals or children/people suffer on the television?
Becoming aware of what is happening, catching ourselves when we are reacting and taking a step back from our initial emotions could be a good first step to bring ourselves into the present moment.
“But”, I hear you say “why would I want to be there?”
Because your power lies in this moment. From here we can clarify, focus, act and change some of what we do not like. Of course, we know, we cannot change other people, but we can change our attitude towards them and in time, our behaviour to achieve more positive outcomes.
“So, how do I do that?” might be the next question.
What I do is, start small. I try to become aware of moments of stress and frustration or other negative states of being by acknowledging where I am and making a conscious choice of not following my thought processes along, but stopping there.
To interrupt the downward spiral, I do this simple breathing exercise:
Bring your attention to your breath. Feel it going into your nostrils and all the way down, filling your lungs. Feel your chest expand. Breathe out slowly through your mouth. Repeat as often as you like or for as long as your time allows.
Bringing your attention to your body, will ground you in the present.
There are many other breathing and relaxation exercises you can explore and adopt, but to begin with keep it simple as that means you have a greater chance of carrying on. The more you practice, the more natural it will become. A new habit is formed through about 30 days of consistent practice.
So, by the end of the month you may feel more present, powerful and happy than you have for a while.
Let’s start the year by bringing more presence into our lives.
My articles are not meant to be lectures or advice. My words are simply musings, perhaps helpful thoughts unsupported by science though they may contain some scientific facts. They come from my life experiences and make sense to me, and I hope they may make some sense to you too. Behind me lie years of experimenting, constantly trying to improve myself and my life. Before me lie (hopefully) some more years of learning and ‘getting it right’. So you see, I am no expert. I am merely giving an account of some of the ways that may make this life a little bit happier and comfortable for whoever can be reached in this way. If I can make just the smallest positive difference in one person’s life, I have reached my goal.